Getting Back Together Forever

When it came to getting back together, all I had to do was follow T Dub’s straightforward advice in “The Magic of Making Up”.

Click here to see the book that helped me get my ex back.

It was easy. By going through the program, I was finally able to really understand where things went wrong and why our relationship ended. It also helped me to confirm that things really weren’t over yet.

Changing my mindset was a bit more challenging. But, I really had to get my head straight or there would not have been any hope for getting back together again. It was only then that I could talk to Jim properly and really look at the underlying issues and concerns.

Following the system was easy. It was an exact blueprint of the exact steps to take and when.

Not only is the system clearly presented but it covers alternative situations. ‘Do this…and then if this happens…you can do that’. You will have a plan of action and know where you are and what to do every step of the way.

So this is what the Magic of Making Up system is about:

Fast Forward Strategy – Instead of just letting time heal feelings, this is a proactive exercise that can help you to release all negative feelings quickly, sometimes in just minutes. Then you can move forward with a clean slate.

The Clean Slate Technique - Most people make the mistake of trying to return to exactly the way things were. This technique shows you how to change attitudes, beliefs and establish an even better relationship to move forward with. These principles are solid and can work with friends, family and acquaintances also.

Second Chance Letter – there is nothing so under utilized and more appreciated than a hand written letter, especially one from the heart. T Dub guides you on exactly what to put in the letter, a style of saying it. He even  includes a template to guide you. It is a sure-fire way to get your ex’s attention and a chance to put your feelings out on the table.

If Nothing Works - In the unlikely event that after going through the system you decide there is nothing to be salvaged, there is even a section at the end of the course for self-care. It details some specific strategies to take care of yourself and move on.

Getting back together is not an easy process. Too much pride and emotions can sabotage the best intentions, the greatest love. The Magic of Making Up helped me save my relationship. It could help yours too.

Did you just experience a break up? Are you wondering how to go get an ex back? Almost nearly every adult as experienced some kind of a break up, and most just work on moving on rather than looking for a way to get an ex back. But if you are over playing the victim and want to put some work in to get an ex back, then there are options for you. Everyone deals with breakup, but does break up simply mean that you cannot get back together with your ex?

The fact is, 90 percent of the time there is no reason why you cannot get an ex back after a break up, providing that you know what steps are necessary to win your ex back. The first step in learning how to get an ex back is to determine what exactly happened that caused the break up. Even though you cannot go back into the past, and you cannot change what happened, you can learn from the mistakes that were made and you can try to learn and grow from the experiences.

The break up may have occurred because of a single event, or it may have occurred from behaviors that your ex could not deal with anymore. No matter what the reason was that led to the breakup, you need to get the specifics figured out so that you can deal with the situation if it should never come up again. You can get an ex back if you know how, but if you want to make it work on a long term basis, you need to figure out what went wrong in the first place.

The next step in the process is to ensure that you are not coming off as a needy person. Everyone will feel like they cannot live without their ex, but there is no point in making this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong, and let your ex see that you are doing just fine by yourself. If you let everyone around you see your comfort and self confidence, then you will have a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

Trying to get back at your ex, or trying to make your ex jealous is not a good way to operate. In fact, these are some of the worst things that you can possibly do, because it will show your ex that he or she should simply move on because you already have. While you do want your ex to see that you’re doing ok, you do not want it to inspire him or her to completely move on if your ideal scenario is to get back together. Let your ex see how strong and self confident you are, and they will feel inspired to get back together with you.

Let him go. Let him !?!!! Why’s a book about making up advising me to let him go? That crazy! How can these words even leave my lips? No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But nothing else had worked. I was desperate. It was worth a go, wasn’t it?

So I tried it. I called Jim and apologised and told him I agreed with him. We should go our seperate ways.

And it worked! That was the point at which we started getting back together again. Isn’t that crazy?!!! Who would have thought! I’d spent a fortune on books written by psychologists and counsellors, but their advice did not work. And this T Dub (what a name!) was certainly no expert as far as credentials was concerned. But he certainly knows human behaviour alright!

So who is he?

“T Dub” is the nickname of TW Jackson. He was a military brat, having served in the armed forces since the tender age of 17. Having had to move around so much all his life, he learnt how to get on with people really fast. People from all around the world, from all walks of life.

He became really good at reading people, finding out what makes them “tick”, and even influencing their behaviour! He got such a reputation for this that he was the guy all his friends turned to for advice. Escpecially relationship advice.

As the divorce rate among military couples is higher than norm, he got plenty of experience in giving out advice to couples in trouble, getting them back together again. His techniques are unconventional, but they work! I can bear testament to that!

The book he wrote is called The Magic of Making Up. I ordered it, immediately downloaded it, and read it. T Dub’s Love Recipe saved my relationship and has brought it to the next level.

Those few weeks without Jim were the hardest. Waiting for him to call or come back into my arms was sheer agony. Whenever I plucked up the courage to call him, the words just didn’t come out right. I don’t know which of us was more relieved the conversation was ending.

Sometimes I’d just text him. And text him. And text him. Later I found out this was called text message terrorism. Sometimes he’d reply, but more often than not, he’d ignore me. Then I’d stare at the phone, waiting…

Once, I even snuck to his place of work at lunch time, just to catch a glimpse of him. I did. He was with her…

I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, I looked a mess, I was falling apart. I was bursting into tears all the time. My boss was furious with me. I would just about hold it together till a love song came on the radio, then I’d burst into tears again.

When we finally got back together again, we did talk about how we felt during our time apart. He admitted that he was going through extreme guilt too. And yeah, I did drive him crazy with the non-stop harassment. He understands though, and forgives me. Fortunately the strategies did work, and now we are together again.

I knew from the moment I met Jim, that he was the man I was going to be with for the rest of my life. Yes, it was love at first sight for the both of us. That’s why I could not believe it when he cheated on me. Maybe it was my fault for working such long hours. He said he got bored, and could not resist temptation.

When he decided he wanted us to split up, I felt that my world had come to an end. I spent days, weeks, crying. Our relationship was perfect! How could he? She couldn’t possibly make him happy! My friends all said that I’m prettier than her… What was he thinking!

Of course I tried talking to Jim. I asked him whether there was any chance of getting back together. I told him I forgave him and begged him to come back to me. I spent weeks waiting for the phone to ring, the doorbell to chime. He had to come back soon, right?

My friends all told me to get over him. Start dating again. They even organised a few blind dates for me. But all I could think or talk about was Jim and how much I wanted him back.

When I realised he wasn’t going to come back to me of his own accord, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I read ever book I could, and searched online for solutions. I was determined that we were getting back together, and nothing was going to come between us. So I researched and compiled all the strategies to get my boyfriend back. And with the best advice available, I was taking the first steps to getting my boyfriend back.